It is that time of the year...time to reflect upon the passing year and determine what we hope the new year will bring.
I have goals to set...very specific ones and time limited ones but I haven't sat down and written them out. So, instead I will comment on this past year.
Many know that I have suffered from depression for at least 13 years and have been on medication to control it. This past year has been somewhat difficult and I just recently completed a sleep apnea test and learned that I have severe sleep apnea. Being chronically tired will cause one to be depressed....so now I am going through the process of finding the right nose mask to work with the air machine that keeps my throat open at night so I can actually breathe and sleep all night long without having to wake myself up to catch a breath. I have already noticed a big difference. It is amazing how getting enough sleep without interruption can help bring a calming affect to me. I am also noticing a significant lifting of the depression and some energy returning. So, there are goals to be developed around caring for myself.
I am learning to be kinder to myself. That means that I don't expect myself to be a super woman/artist/mother/spouse/cook/daughter, etc. I can only do what I can do. And sometimes that isn't a lot and sometimes it is.
I have learned that I am not a very good friend...I don't follow up with people like I should in order to maintain friendships. Friendships take work.
I have learned that I need to work on my self discipline---I will easily go to the studio and make art rather than do the dishes, write the notes, call a friend, pick up the house (much lest do any cleaning) etc. But I have to decide just what form my self discipline needs to take...I know I need to spend more time on the business of art.
I have learned that I have some very good friends who hang in with me through all my ups and downs. I am not always a very easy person to be with...just ask my husband of 39 years!
I have learned that I am not as committed to being some kind of super artist as I thought and that I have to decide for myself just what my real goals are in art and what I consider success. Of course, this may change...I am just thinking about all the shows I didn't enter this year, etc.
But then, there have been a lot of personal and professional highs this year too...but more of that later....
Well, you know that I am a friend who is hanging in with you, no matter what. I can see through whatever you want to throw out there to hide behind. This is a very profound post. I want so much for you to be healthy and happy and most of all, creative.
ReplyDeleteMy best to you in the New Year!!
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Liz,
ReplyDeleteMany of us knew you were depressed when you worked for probation. Perhaps you should look at Doug's depression also.
A former co-worker
Hi! Liz,
ReplyDeleteA thought provoking post, but to have learned so much about yourself and found you have sleep apnea as a possible cause you are moving forward. Wishing you many good things for 2009 creatively and personally.
I've had a tendency toward depression, and it surely hits me when I don't get enough sleep. It is said that depression causes sleep problems. Yes, true. But I swear that sleep problems cause depression. I've had some outside circumstances through the years that caused lots of interuupted sleep. In two cases, the situation changed and within a week, I got more sleep each night and felt like a new person. So, I'm wishing you a renaisance with your sleep machine.
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